My most difficult bride to to help is the people-pleaser. She is so sweet and painfully polite. You may be asking, since when is polite painful. Let me explain. She doesn’t want to say what is on her mind because she doesn’t want to hurt our feelings which makes it completely impossible to help her. Throughout the years, I have learned how to interpret the bridal language. Here are the all the things I wish a bride told me:
I don’t like this dress for me. The sooner a bride tells me what she doesn’t like the better I can help her. Of course, I always recommend trying on dresses first before jumping to a conclusion. Once you are in the gown, critic it. You are on the pedestal, I’m by your side, and we are all waiting to hear what you don’t like about it. Don’t know what about it you don’t like, just say its not for you. I don’t expect you to step into every dress and fall in love. The quicker I get you out of the ones you dislike, the closer I am to finding you the one!
I am not purchasing the dress. I purchased my own wedding dress, but I would say about half of our clients do not. When I know you are not the one purchasing, I can consult with the person that is and make sure we answer their questions and fill their needs as well. The only way for me to give that dreamy wedding dress experience is to have open communication with you and the person purchasing. I want to be respectful to all parties involved.
I have an insecurity. Now this one I can completely understand why you may not reveal. At Solutions Bridal, I train my staff to deal with body image, insecurities, and other super personal matters that come up in the dressing rooms. They teach me as well. Every day is a different story and a different security. If you are debating telling me about an insecurity, try and jump and tell me. We all have them. I have a dislocated elbow. I have had it for most of my life. For years, I would only take photos on one side. When I walked down the aisle to my husband, he was standing on the wrong side which positioned me to stand with my left elbow toward the guests and photographer. I told him this later and he said, “I love your crazy elbow.” Sometimes when we are open, more opportunities to heal or to build confidence come in. When I know your insecurities we can work together to find a wedding dress and accessories that focuses on the parts of your body that you do love to highlight!
My price range is this. After many years of asking people price ranges, it is still awkward. I always question if I should or not, but the reason behind why we do is right so I always go for it. I want to help brides find their dream wedding dress. I have brides that will undercut the price range they tell me hoping I will find that designer gown. Hey, I’m always up for a challenge, but when your taste level is incredibly higher than the price you are telling me, it might be a frustrating experience trying on a bunch of dresses that are not the quality you want. I will always try, but it may not end in success. On the other end, if you don’t want to reveal your price range at all I completely understand. I’m not here to help you find the most expensive dress. I’m here to find you the right dress and hopefully in the range you feel comfortable with.
I’m pregnant. This is personal information you do not need to share with your stylist. Of course knowing this information is helpful for me to know what you are looking for, sizing, and the best alterations plan. If you are considering telling me, don’t worry, I won’t judge you. I’m here to provide you with excellent service and give you a memorable experience. . Every month we help a pregnant bride. Its more common than you think.
I am not engaged. Let me see the ring! Oh no ring, let me see the photo! Oh no photo? Hmm… starts to get a little fishy. Finding your wedding dress is something most of us think about before we find our partner. With us being situated right by Mall of Millenia in Orlando, FL we have hundreds of women driving by our store. Come in. Please come in. Take a salon tour and enjoy looking through our sea of beautiful dresses. But don’t lie to us. It hurts. Honestly, it hurts really bad. And it hurts more when you know you have orders to take care of and 20 emails you need to get back to. When the store is busy we are busy. When the store is quiet we are still very busy placing orders, checking on orders, and answering our clients questions. Whew… glad I got that one of my chest.
*photo by Damon Tucci Photography, Model: Kris Pugh